Success is the New Single

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I’m sure every varsity student has experienced the late nights spent working on assignments and having to need a cup of coffee to revive them in the morning. Having experienced this it was one of those hell weeks where you walk into the lecturer’s office and feel a sense of accomplishment.  To succeed is to be driven by one’s goals and accomplishments in life. Many women these days are drawn to independence and throughout the years many women have had to fight their way to gain a voice and this has affected the how women views an opinions of what a good relationship is.

"Success or failure depends more upon attitude than upon capacity successful men act as though they have accomplished or are enjoying something. Soon it becomes a reality. Act, look, feel successful, conduct yourself accordingly, and you will be amazed at the positive results." - William James

There are loads of films where one see’s how a young girl sets her mind to succeeding in her careers and we see this many women in the modern day. The mind set of women assuming the roles of a housewife have changed. With dynamic woman’s magazines like cosmopolitan encouraging woman to create a balance between a relationship and their careers many women have the idea of marriage as something they will do when they are thirty. The word Single is a concept that is not even in their mind they have replaced this with the concept of Success.  Success has defined  what woman think and for some being single is a something they are content with.

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A Splash of Colour

Finding the right colour to mix and match during the spring and summer seasons can is like finding that perfect be extremely difficult, especially after wearing dull colours in winter. You mix and match until you find perfect or at least something close to perfection. It’s always exciting to wear bright colours; however, you just need to know how to find the right combination that suits your style.

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Most women have the perception of not being able to find the right colours that will match their skin tone, but, when trying to find the right colour balance, it’s always great to think of yourself as a painting. By visualising the colours, head to toe it becomes easy to pick out the right style that will suit you. If you’re wearing a red dress, ensure the dress is not too long, your legs will it creates a great balance between the outfit’s colour and your skin tone. Stylist, Zoe Lem, suggests that blue, green, and purple colours work well together and bring a sense of serenity whereas red, orange and pinks bring warmth to the skin tone.

A gal’s gotta look good and you’ll find that by dressing well it ups your confidence in yourself. They say that with in with the new out with old well like fashion the same thing applies when you’re seeing someone you like. Be bold and introduce your wardrobe and your life to an unbelievably bright future with colour. 

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22

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So this piece is a dedication to my blog and to myself. A bit conceited but turning 22 on the 24^th of September 2013, I felt it was appropriate.  So what have I learnt in the past year was that life is too short to wait around and expect things to happen. Being single has taught me to be a lot more patient in order to find that perfect  person, or an idea of Mr Perfect.  There is nothing wrong in being single and having expectations in life. it gives you standards and doesn't let your morals and ethics about you you are slip

We hear people complain about how they hate being single but through the other pieces that I've written it has shown how there are ups and down when comes to being single.  We go through break ups and heartaches but we have our friends and family to be there to help us pick the pieces up. The Single life is what you want it to be it is what lifestyle you want to lead. it is your choice you have the ability to choose how you want your life to be and the people to want to meet.

Sometimes it is okay to be single because we meet people everyday and sometimes that do not meet our expectations and other do but I say no matter what one should be open to the possibilities of new beginnings.  So I'm venturing of into the next chapter where I live my life being 22, I want to enjoy the people I have in my life. So live in the moment and if you are single don't worry your not missing out on anything great. Be content on what you have now.

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Expressing the C-word

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It’s that moment where he looks at you and says 3 words, 8 letters, that are about to change your world…I Love You. You would think that you would be ecstatic or over the moon, but you find yourself standing there not saying a word. Thoughts start racing through your mind, begging you to say something, anything but you don’t and you left scouting the room in search of  the nearest exist.

Many people think that when we mention the word commitment it is associated with men, but now-a-days you find that women are the one’s kissing and breaking hearts. Even though the quantity between men and women who don’t commit to relationships is not greatly wide, the ‘modern era’ has allowed a woman to have more freedom to control her life.

Therefore for many women who transition from a young girl to a woman tend to be more focused about their careers and may find it difficult to commit to a steady relationship.  One must remember that women are described as emotional beings and it is the fear of a man defining who we are, that plays a major role for many women who are struggling to commit to their potential partners. 

Each individual overcomes obstacles when it comes to commitment. These are three steps in order for woman to begin the process of trying to overcome commitment. Redefine what commitment means to you, by stating what is important one can build a foundation of trust and honesty between you and you’re partner. The next step is to focus on your goals, women do want to succeed in their career but the key is to find a balance between work and play time.  Finally by talking to someone professional that doesn’t know you, will give you and unbiased opinion about the fears in your life, this will help overcome the fears trapped within you. Commitment is not something that goes away overnight but the journey beings with you choosing to overcome this.

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Underneath the mask...

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From a young age we are taught right from wrong, and we start to attach ourselves to the things we like; colours, clothing, girly traits or even tomboy traits.

From our family and friends we start to develop who we are and who we want to be…a little thing called our identities. However sometimes something from our past haunts us and we begin to place layers on, to cover up who we really are. We begin to shelter ourselves and the only person who knows what we are feeling; who we truly are is ourselves. Scary thought, but a lot of us place masks to cover up because we are afraid that our true selves will push a person away. Everyone has faults that we hate and wish we had a magic wand to wave a way but we don’t. 

When you’re with someone should the little things you hate make you afraid, sometimes it can. We are human, unfortunately we are going to accept or reject what we think of people. I know I like to make reference to this but I’m sure everyone that read the Fifty Shades of Grey series wasn’t impress to find out that this perfect ‘god’ C. Grey was a sex maniac but in the novel the female protagonist, Anastasia learns how to see the man behind the mask is a fragile human being who’s past haunted him. 

My point here is that if we are not careful we might let the mask define who we are. You should be who you want to be, no one can take that away and if your with someone, they should accept you for what’s underneath the mask and not let the mask define who you are.

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Expectations precedes acceptance

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Sitting around with a group of friends and you’re the only one that’s single, during the discussion one of girls says “hey…, I think I have a great guy for you. What do you look for in a guy? Your answer could be something like; tall, black hair, charming smiling and the list goes on. 

But does the expectations you have for the person you want to have a relationship with make your mind set difficult when it comes to accepting the person for who they are?

Well they say that first impressions last 3 seconds and in those 3 seconds you have thought and whether you like it or not but that same list of criteria that you mentioned to your friends pops up and you start saying no, no, yes, yes and maybe. In a previous blog piece, I spoke about first impressions but if we take that away and we are just left with our standards sometimes it would make it difficult for the person to be accepted.

Does this define you we are as being too weak, confident or even proud.  Sometimes I think because we have these expectations we won’t accept the person for who they are. Is that bad, we shouldn’t lower our standard, but instead of lowering one should be opened to compromise. So yes and no would be the answer, sometimes having high expectations tells you exactly what you want and you don’t have that option of toying with the other person’s emotions.

We might not admit it, and some may say that it is about the person’s personality which I agree but my conclusion here would be that it depends on the person and their feelings about whether expectations are more important than being able to accept the person.  Only you have the power to make choices and take responsibility for the consequences we are left with.  

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Goodbye winter blues... Hello Spring

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So I know I missed the 1^st of September as the official day to blog about spring day, but to be honest with the cloudy skies and the ice wind that we had it didn’t feel like the first of spring. So today is how I imagined spring to be sitting in my room typing away on my laptop with the clear blue skies and the birds chirping it feels like a new beginning.

That it will be, we read stories of how winter is time to be cosy with love ones, flings and guys we just don’t like to put a label on them but they are there but with spring here it gives girls the confidence to blossom like flowers. Being born in September I love it, it’s time to put away that sweat pants and over size jacket that keep us warm and say hello to dresses and shorts which give girls a side advantage when it comes to impressing the fella’s with our gorgeous legs or our curves. We are kissing winter blues away and saying hello to spring kisses.

Days like these are best when you can lounge around the pool with a group of friends and gossip about, who did what over the winter months. I love days where I have a couple of girlfriends over and we are sipping on a few cosmos (very sex in the city I know) not worrying about guys troubling our minds. Girls do want that someone special in their lives but sometimes the single lifestyle gives you a get out of jail card where you can escape with your girls and just relax. Having that person nagging you where you going what time you coming back, who are you with gives girls that sense of omw back off a little so if your single don’t worry more fun your just opened to a whole lot of fun things this time of season.   

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Empire State of Mine

"It's always the same dream. I'm in the city and I belong. Manhattan is mine. But then I always wake up." - Carrie Bradshaw

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It’s the city that never sleeps, a place where doors open for new hopefuls who dreams of making it on the stage of Broadway and Julliard come alive, where socialites live for the designer labels of the great Louis Vuitton, Ralph Lauren, Vogue and Chanel. This is New York City.

My ultimate goal is one day to walk through the streets of New York City and say I've finally arrived. How does this relate to the singles guide well it doesn’t but it’s that one random piece I’m sure every writer loves to add in. On the other hand you can look at it as that one place everyone who has direction in their lives wants to go.

From the glorious monuments like the Empire State Building and the Statue of liberty, New York City can be described as an empire on its own. New York exerts a significant impact upon commerce, finance, media, art, fashion, research, technology, education, and entertainment. You would think that by the way I am describing the city that never sleeps, I've actually went there but having consumed myself with so much knowledge it has given me the mind-set that one day I will go there.

That’s the great part about being single you don’t have to let anyone tell you, you can’t go here and there. You have the power to choose your destiny and how you get there is your choice. So if New York is a dream like mine, stop dreaming and make it a reality.

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Sick in the City

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It’s that feeling when you wake up and you find yourself with a blocked nose, a horrible headache, a sore throat and worse you have to attend work or school. Well this is exactly how I felt this morning when I got up. Being sick can be the worse feeling in the world but it could also be your body telling you to SLOW DOWN and rest.

Often with our busy schedules we sometimes use this as an excuse to avoid having relationships when the opportunity comes knocking on our doors (depending on the guy of course) so we focus on the best thing your careers. However we are choose to focus more when after a bad break up or when we are getting over some who is just not that into us. We tend to bury ourselves in work to keep us distracted with all the worries that fill our head. With this comes stress and then sickness.

What a disaster, solution???? Well when we let things affect us we don’t realise the strain we put on our bodies, sometimes you need that friend to come over and have a cup of tea and do what girls do best, GOSSIP! Believe or not it is actually a great way to get everything of your chest. Stress is one of the highest risks to be the sole cause of being under the weather and sometimes detoxing that horrible negative energy that surrounds us is the best option.  So below is just a couple of thing I like to do when I get sick…

·        Watch a movie (PS preferably with a hot actor in it eg Ryan Gosling or Henry Cavil) ·        Have a bowl of soup (one word amazing) ·        Snuggle in bed (keeps one warm) ·        Put phone on silent ( good way to avoid distractions) ·        Have a cup of tea (Chai is amazing) ·        Plenty of REST!! You Good to go J

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LOVE ME, NOT MY RACE...

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It is the personality that counts and not the appearance of a person. However the colour of one’s skin can change that perspective, even though the word is not said and people believe that it does not exist, Racism is very much alive.

Society has created different perspectives about interracial relationships which occur in high schools and universities, when one finds themself being attracted to a person of a different race.

With the older generation passing down the customs of dating within the same race the younger generation is forced to accept this, but to most students in universities race does not matter. With interracial relationship’s becoming a common trend defining race would be difficult.If one links this to the genetic offspring a baby born from an interracial relationship couple is likely to avoid genetic diseases arising from homozygous which is common with parents belonging to the same race group. Interracial relationships would allow people to not judge one another.

Therefore youth of today should have a broader mind set because racism will exist for a long time however the youth have the power to create positive concepts.

Love one and not ones race. 

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Differences and Similarities

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The common saying is opposites attract, but is that really true when it comes to interacting with people. The question when one is approached about relationships is what are you looking for in a guy? Often having common goals adds points to whatever score sheet we have in our minds. Can too many differences ruin the person’s interest in that person, well the answer is yes and no, many people have issues with not having things in common with their significant other.

This is the foundation when it comes to a relationship. It goes back to having expectations; he should want to travel or be out going, have direction in life. Girls can be so picky but I mean you are spending your days with this person and who knows maybe the rest of your life. Having “ended” things with this guys, whose reason was that we just are too different it made me think did we even have any similarities. Once you spend more time with a person you begin to realise that wow you might actually never have anything in common or wow you did and it worked out. So it left me wondering does opposites really attract, I mean there is the physically attraction but that is a separate piece on its own and there is there personality clashes

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Whether we like it or not it makes relationships easier and not difficult when two people have so much in common rather than nothing at all. Speaking from experience I have pushed many guys away because I felt that we just didn’t click and it didn’t matter if he was the sweetest guy in the world, not matter what we just didn’t things in common. It all comes to choice, you make the choice of whether you can cherish the similarities and accept the differences, but remember all these have consequences to it. It all boils to whether we can accept or we are left to walk away and it is normal. We live and learn each day so when single don’t sit and drown you’re sorrows go out and mingle. After all what more fun could you ask for?

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Sink or Swim

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As females we are hooked on those romantic films and novels where by the heroin always ends up with the hero. Destiny??? Well when we watch and read these things and are introduced to the main characters, the plot, the complication of the story and finally the happily ever after. However we never get to see what happens after the happily ever after. I like to think of relationships as a sink or swim situation. By that I mean it has ups and downs and often we are clouded by everyone’s opinions about relationships. 

I came across a feature in the Woman’s Health magazine for the August 2013 edition on, “How do you see your Relationship”; within the article they approach 5 different angles. The first being what your friends think it should be, next what Hollywood thinks it should be, following what the marketers think it should be, of course it has to have what you think it should be and finally what it really is. The reason this article caught my attention, is that it is true. Often most girls like me do want that Mr BIG, or our Superman to fly us around and Hollywood does play a major role on what we portray a relationship to be. Then there is the matter of what my friends have. Being around people that are in relationships and you being the one that is single can make you want the relationship more but when in a relationship it either works or doesn’t.

The article goes on by saying that as an individual you have the power to determine your happiness and not anyone else. Regardless whether you are single or in a relationship you need to choose what you want your purpose of your relationship status to be. There shouldn't be a sink or swim situation, there should only a destination, and the best part of it, is you make that choice of your arrival...

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A little thing called FRIENDSHIP...

Every day we encounter people in our lives and we never know what might come out of that meeting. Sometimes true friendships are born out of random moments and we should often cherish it.  As weird as it may seem, but a smile or a simple hi does the trick. 

Often when we are single we rely on our friends to distract us from that horrible feeling of being alone with our thoughts that fill our head on why haven’t I met someone, but with the friendship you  share with someone have might be stronger than any relationship one might have. 

They say that friends enter and exit one’s life, which is true. We encounter different stages in our lives which allows us to meet loads of people from pre-school, primary school, high school, varsity and then work these are the common environments we are exposed to in our adolescences to our adulthood.

We form  the dislikes, and the likes with people we have a common ground with but the revelation is that believe it or not sometimes one can become friends with a person they disliked and might find that the person you did not like might just be the person who understands you the most. Shocking but amazing, we shouldn't be stubborn when meeting people sometimes it can be scary but hey it’s not a relationship, it’s a friendship they are the best people you can ever have. After all they always have your back…

PS. I dedicate this piece to my entire group of friend who have been there for me…

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A Broken Heart...

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One is always prepared to fall for someone at any unexpected time, but we are never prepared for the outcome that we fear the most, disappointment.

It is in that moment when you realise the guy that is in your class catches your attention and you realise that there might just be more than friendship in your eyes. He is the guy that girls drool over and yet he is the one that chooses to talk to you out of everyone else. However these are the type of guys that sometimes give disappointment a new meaning. You find moments where all you want to do is talk to him and gaze in those eyes that make you weak in the knees and there comes that moment when your eyes meet and all your body and mind is saying is kiss me already but it doesn’t happen leaving your mind confused.

So you guys flirt and test the water abit but then the worst thing you fear the most hits you, he tells you in some sort of way that he is just not that into you. A sudden pain dwells up inside and when you walk away you could only hope he walks to you but he doesn't, you want him to relies when you say "it’s cool" he found someone he likes but it isn't and most of all you want him to relies that when you say you like him, you mean it but that's not the case.

Sometimes we are blinded by others to see a good guy standing in front of you and when you relies you like him it could be too late...here is where reality clashes with fantasy. So after all this we find ourselves curling up with a blanket and that chick flick with a bowl of ice-cream to try and make us feel abit better but the part that is the worst would have to be you walking past him and knowing that he was a jerk for just being a guy.

So guys when a girl gives you the cold shoulder or just is acting insane as you might think, it's not because she is mad but for the first time she might relies, she might have just broken her heart by allowing herself to be vulnerable...

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Eat, Hike...Breath

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Once in a while everyone need to getaway, whether it is a resort with a bunch of friends or a cosy cabin on the top of a mountain at a lodge with the family it something we keep with us. We use this precious time to reflect on the thoughts that are roaming around is our mind and find a way to clear our mind.

Having gone away to the Fernwood Lodge in Drakensburg, it was amazing to have time not only with myself and but also spend quality time with the family. It was also a chance to go on a journey up the mountain and on the hike trails which provided a feeling of serenity with.

This retreat allowed me to breath and take in the fresh air and go on a journey that was not only physically, but spiritual. It provided the stepping stone that was needed in order for one to find  themselves and what they want in life as well as how to let life run its course. I find that forcing things will just end up in one big puddle. Sometimes one needs to get out of the fast lane and take a break every once in a while...Eat, walk...BREATH! 

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Because I said so…Mothers Know best??

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But why mum? Because I said so….

A famous line used by most mothers. A line that is used when mothers know best, well we hope they do. There comes a stage in a girl’s life when all a mother wants to see is her daughter happy and with someone.

When one is single sometimes there are certain amounts of pressure we encounter from our parents especially mothers.  Often they feel the need to set up their daughters with a suitable man that will look after them and make their daughter happy. However more pressure is placed on a person especially if they are the ones who are not accustomed to having a boyfriend and more so it can be worse when their siblings are in relationships.

Attending a family friend’s braai over the weekend, I had been introduced to two handsome gentlemen who were friends of the family and all I remember was my mother turning to me and saying “ooooohh see you should come things more often”. Not feeling embarrassed but more pressured at the fact that there was this expectation of having a boyfriend or making conversation with these two guys.

All mothers want to see is their child happy and in that moment I understood a mother’s duty to see their child happy even though it can be at the expense of them making blush in front of cute boys. Regardless of this all a mother wants to do is look out for you. Next time you here these words; “Because I said so” don’t argue just be happy she is always there to protect you. 

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Playing the Field

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Who is Mr. Right? Is there a Mr. Right?

We read novels about finding that perfect guy yet when it comes to reality we can be selective, He should have this quality, and he should look like a Christian Grey or a Damon Salvatore.  However because of our expectations guy we meet sometimes never lives up to our expectations.

We often wonder why we can’t accept the people that come into our lives. Why is it that we have this illusion that makes us want to conform to who society thinks is the right guy that should come into our lives? This leads to us playing the field, which might include, going out on dates, random hook ups that no one cares about or even flirting to gain attention without the caring about the other person.  Sometimes we don’t realise that playing the field can be a cover up so that we can hide and avoid that commitment of a relationship.

The perks of dating is tricky and complicated, are we sometimes too scared to let a person in that we push them away. Often being single can overcrowd our thoughts and we are left wanting that 'honeymoon' phase throughout the relationship.  How far does one really have to go in order to allow that person into our lives? Maybe it is because the guy you thought was your Mr. Right has broken your heart and made you more wary of the guys you shouldn't date. This can result in some sort of effect that has made you scared of dating. Playing the field has good and bad traits but playing these types of cards may result in you lose out on something great…

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That Hook-Up

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Often a lot of single people don’t how much fun one can have when they are living a life being single. There is no OMG moment where you are worried about him finding out or what have I done? Sometimes hooking up with people can be so much fun.  This can happen at a club, a party, or even between two friends who maybe have had a bit to much to drink that it just happens.

However there is always the next day syndrome of what happens now? Do I call him, When do I call him, is he going to call me? We often over think the moment instead of just having a bit of fun. However there are times when you could end up liking the person you have just hooked up with and think what should you do now? These questions are left with not enough answers and sometimes letting life take its toll is the best thing to do.

Us girls like to sometimes complicate things, I know do. Questions overflow my head but I have learnt to talk to my friends and often they might just give me the right guidance to find these solutions to these questions.  It’s great to have a glass of wine and chat to your friends you will find yourself relaxing, which is exactly what you need. Hook ups are casual, fun and the vest when you are so over having that serious relationship. The consequences that one faces after this can be tricky but one step at a time will give you all the right answers you need. Just have some fun.

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Best Friend to Boyfriend???

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Often having a best guy friend can be great, you can talk to them about all the stuff that your girls might be afraid to tell you. They sometimes will end up telling you what you want to hear rather then what you should hear. This is where the guy steps in; because we don't want to hear the truth he is there too snap us back into reality. You feel that he is the person who is going to understand you and sometimes he will have the same views that you would have about a relationship. However can this be dangerous?

When you are drowning in sorrow about being single, we find ourselves leaning towards our guys for comfort. Without noticing this you find the worst thing that could happen start to take over, you fall for him! All sorts of questions race through your mind and confusion takes over, first he is your best friend and you start to think, could you guys ever be an item or will it ruin your friendship. We never know, you think how on earth will I tell him and worse what will he think. Often our fears cloud our judgments and hesitation takes over. This situation is never easy and we shelter our feelings.

Regardless of the situation one should turn their fears into courage, if your friendship is that strong you guys will probably be laughing about it down the line, along with the other great memories you have shared together. Even though there is a possibility that a friendship might be broken,on the other hand it can blossom into one of the best relationships you might find yourself having. Everyone goes through heartbreak but it’s like riding a bicycle you have to take that first leap, you won't begin the journey if you don't try.

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Night Out

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I don't know about you but everyone deserves a night out whether it is dinner, drinks or even seeing a movie. Sometimes you need that space where you just want to get away from the things that irritate you. 

A bliss side to being single is that you can do whatever you want whenever you want without any of the questions that are ringing in the background. It’s always where are you going, who’s going to be there and why am I not coming with you. Relationships can be a drag and always trying to please the next person can sometimes result in arguments that will never end.

Taking a friend and going to watch a movie is the best thing ever; you catch up with the latest gossip and just hang out. Even going with a parent I mean it isn't that bad, when you are teenagers they say that one just wants to get as far as possible from your parents but sometimes it’s nice just having that bonding time, praying it won’t turn into an argument but hey that’s the part of growing up. You’re going to meet people, date and break up even if you don’t its okay. I mean sometimes relationships have so much expectation that comes along with this it just becomes like a job that you hate. 

Sometimes enjoy what have, I mean so many of my friends say I wish I could just have a break from him. I treasure the moments I have to myself, enjoying the moments with family and friends these are the memories you are going to look back at when you’re married or divorced or even if you’re still single….it’s okay…so treasure each and every moment and have a night out

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4 Party Guys...

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So you’re single and your friends want to find a Mr Right for you, what's the first place they mostly likely going to take you to meet new people... A club. It is a place to socialise, meet new friends and have a few drinks with the girls. Generally I know when I go out with my friends and  get tired of dancing I like to chill by the bar and have a break from the intenseness of the music. This is where I like to introduce the four types of guys a single person is bound to meet at a club throughout the night.

Lets start with Guy number 1: I like to call him, the "hugger" (King of Spades), these types of guys see girls sitting at a bar and will on countless occasions throughout the night try and pick you up with that cliché line. However you probably will find yourself bored and irritated, so politely tell the guy that your not interested sometimes honesty is the best policy.

Guy number 2, I like to call him the buyer(King of diamonds); these guys are actually friendly. Usually they will come over to the bar and sometimes see you sitting there. They are friendly because they start of with greeting you next have a bit of small chat and then offer to buy you a drink. However the plus side is that most of these buyers will tell you to enjoy your evening and you'll hardly see him throughout the night.

Which brings us to Guy 3: the dancer( King of Clubs), he is quiet enjoyable because he is the type of guy who will pull you from your seat and get you dancing, whether it is a friend you might have bumped into, a nice chilled guy or some guy that just loves dancing, regardless of this you will have a good time.

Finally Guy number 4: "Mc Dreamy" "C.GREY"(King of hearts) you name it, this is the guy you might fancy and find yourself staring at him. When this guy approaches you'll probably act like a school girl crushing on that high school jock. This is the guy is the type of guy that you hope is sweet, kind, funny, but beware they might not be as they sweet as they seem.

So next time you decide to go out remember your girls love you, they just want to see you happy, try go out and forget about hooking up with a guy. Just have fun.

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