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Sitting around with a group of friends and you’re the only
one that’s single, during the discussion one of girls says “hey…, I think I have
a great guy for you. What do you look for in a guy? Your answer could be
something like; tall, black hair, charming smiling and the list goes on.
But does
the expectations you have for the person you want to have a relationship with
make your mind set difficult when it comes to accepting the person for who they
are?
Well they say that first impressions last 3 seconds and
in those 3 seconds you have thought and whether you like it or not but that
same list of criteria that you mentioned to your friends pops up and you start
saying no, no, yes, yes and maybe. In a previous blog piece, I spoke about
first impressions but if we take that away and we are just left with our standards
sometimes it would make it difficult for the person to be accepted.
Does this define you we are as being too weak, confident
or even proud. Sometimes I think because
we have these expectations we won’t accept the person for who they are. Is that
bad, we shouldn’t lower our standard, but instead of lowering one should be
opened to compromise. So yes and no would be the answer, sometimes having high
expectations tells you exactly what you want and you don’t have that option of
toying with the other person’s emotions.
We might not admit it, and some may say that it is about
the person’s personality which I agree but my conclusion here would be that it
depends on the person and their feelings about whether expectations are more
important than being able to accept the person. Only you have the power to make choices and
take responsibility for the consequences we are left with.
L.O.V.E
S
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