The Rebound

Adapted from Google images

Breakups, hook-ups or even that person that you wished you could be with but couldn't because of some old excuse that was probably made up or even written in a hand guide. Untimely all these things can end up hurting a person and leaves a person feeling alone and empty inside. Often people say things like “I’m fine” or “I’m so over it” but in actually fact they are too afraid to realise or admit to themselves that it is really over. Without even knowing it or acknowledging this, people often find themselves rebounding, but, is this really healthy.

This can be seen from two perspectives; the first is that of course this is not healthy. The reason for this is that for some odd reason you could be reminded of some of the characteristics from your ex that is portrayed in Mr Rebound and this could make you miss the person you should have been with but couldn't be with. One finds themselves asking questions like why couldn't or didn't it work out, which is very unhealthy. The other perspective is that your Mr Rebound could change from this to Mr Right, by just giving him a chance. However sometimes we are so caught up with old feelings that we cannot see this.

Rebounds can be a messy issue to deal with, yet everyone goes through it whether we like it or not. The point here is that we crave for that attention and when rebounding we don't even consider the next person feelings. I remember when I went out on a date a few months back and it wasn't what I was expecting. All I kept thinking was that it didn't feel right and this was not the person I wanted to be with, it sounds harsh but it was true. Most single people rebound to hide their pain, fear and all the other emotions that come with this. By thinking that one can replace the old hurt with something new isn't always the simplest solution. One should allow oneself to heal over time and then explore their options when they want to get back on that journey of finding Mr Right.

Being single is all about exploring ones options and this can be a blessing because in order to find your Mr Right you sometimes have to deal with all these Mr Wrongs and this is okay. Like whom you want to like because ultimately only you can make choices that affect you.

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