Success is the New Single

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I’m sure every varsity student has experienced the late nights spent working on assignments and having to need a cup of coffee to revive them in the morning. Having experienced this it was one of those hell weeks where you walk into the lecturer’s office and feel a sense of accomplishment.  To succeed is to be driven by one’s goals and accomplishments in life. Many women these days are drawn to independence and throughout the years many women have had to fight their way to gain a voice and this has affected the how women views an opinions of what a good relationship is.

"Success or failure depends more upon attitude than upon capacity successful men act as though they have accomplished or are enjoying something. Soon it becomes a reality. Act, look, feel successful, conduct yourself accordingly, and you will be amazed at the positive results." - William James

There are loads of films where one see’s how a young girl sets her mind to succeeding in her careers and we see this many women in the modern day. The mind set of women assuming the roles of a housewife have changed. With dynamic woman’s magazines like cosmopolitan encouraging woman to create a balance between a relationship and their careers many women have the idea of marriage as something they will do when they are thirty. The word Single is a concept that is not even in their mind they have replaced this with the concept of Success.  Success has defined  what woman think and for some being single is a something they are content with.

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A Splash of Colour

Finding the right colour to mix and match during the spring and summer seasons can is like finding that perfect be extremely difficult, especially after wearing dull colours in winter. You mix and match until you find perfect or at least something close to perfection. It’s always exciting to wear bright colours; however, you just need to know how to find the right combination that suits your style.

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Most women have the perception of not being able to find the right colours that will match their skin tone, but, when trying to find the right colour balance, it’s always great to think of yourself as a painting. By visualising the colours, head to toe it becomes easy to pick out the right style that will suit you. If you’re wearing a red dress, ensure the dress is not too long, your legs will it creates a great balance between the outfit’s colour and your skin tone. Stylist, Zoe Lem, suggests that blue, green, and purple colours work well together and bring a sense of serenity whereas red, orange and pinks bring warmth to the skin tone.

A gal’s gotta look good and you’ll find that by dressing well it ups your confidence in yourself. They say that with in with the new out with old well like fashion the same thing applies when you’re seeing someone you like. Be bold and introduce your wardrobe and your life to an unbelievably bright future with colour. 

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22

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So this piece is a dedication to my blog and to myself. A bit conceited but turning 22 on the 24^th of September 2013, I felt it was appropriate.  So what have I learnt in the past year was that life is too short to wait around and expect things to happen. Being single has taught me to be a lot more patient in order to find that perfect  person, or an idea of Mr Perfect.  There is nothing wrong in being single and having expectations in life. it gives you standards and doesn't let your morals and ethics about you you are slip

We hear people complain about how they hate being single but through the other pieces that I've written it has shown how there are ups and down when comes to being single.  We go through break ups and heartaches but we have our friends and family to be there to help us pick the pieces up. The Single life is what you want it to be it is what lifestyle you want to lead. it is your choice you have the ability to choose how you want your life to be and the people to want to meet.

Sometimes it is okay to be single because we meet people everyday and sometimes that do not meet our expectations and other do but I say no matter what one should be open to the possibilities of new beginnings.  So I'm venturing of into the next chapter where I live my life being 22, I want to enjoy the people I have in my life. So live in the moment and if you are single don't worry your not missing out on anything great. Be content on what you have now.

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Expressing the C-word

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It’s that moment where he looks at you and says 3 words, 8 letters, that are about to change your world…I Love You. You would think that you would be ecstatic or over the moon, but you find yourself standing there not saying a word. Thoughts start racing through your mind, begging you to say something, anything but you don’t and you left scouting the room in search of  the nearest exist.

Many people think that when we mention the word commitment it is associated with men, but now-a-days you find that women are the one’s kissing and breaking hearts. Even though the quantity between men and women who don’t commit to relationships is not greatly wide, the ‘modern era’ has allowed a woman to have more freedom to control her life.

Therefore for many women who transition from a young girl to a woman tend to be more focused about their careers and may find it difficult to commit to a steady relationship.  One must remember that women are described as emotional beings and it is the fear of a man defining who we are, that plays a major role for many women who are struggling to commit to their potential partners. 

Each individual overcomes obstacles when it comes to commitment. These are three steps in order for woman to begin the process of trying to overcome commitment. Redefine what commitment means to you, by stating what is important one can build a foundation of trust and honesty between you and you’re partner. The next step is to focus on your goals, women do want to succeed in their career but the key is to find a balance between work and play time.  Finally by talking to someone professional that doesn’t know you, will give you and unbiased opinion about the fears in your life, this will help overcome the fears trapped within you. Commitment is not something that goes away overnight but the journey beings with you choosing to overcome this.

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Underneath the mask...

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From a young age we are taught right from wrong, and we start to attach ourselves to the things we like; colours, clothing, girly traits or even tomboy traits.

From our family and friends we start to develop who we are and who we want to be…a little thing called our identities. However sometimes something from our past haunts us and we begin to place layers on, to cover up who we really are. We begin to shelter ourselves and the only person who knows what we are feeling; who we truly are is ourselves. Scary thought, but a lot of us place masks to cover up because we are afraid that our true selves will push a person away. Everyone has faults that we hate and wish we had a magic wand to wave a way but we don’t. 

When you’re with someone should the little things you hate make you afraid, sometimes it can. We are human, unfortunately we are going to accept or reject what we think of people. I know I like to make reference to this but I’m sure everyone that read the Fifty Shades of Grey series wasn’t impress to find out that this perfect ‘god’ C. Grey was a sex maniac but in the novel the female protagonist, Anastasia learns how to see the man behind the mask is a fragile human being who’s past haunted him. 

My point here is that if we are not careful we might let the mask define who we are. You should be who you want to be, no one can take that away and if your with someone, they should accept you for what’s underneath the mask and not let the mask define who you are.

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Expectations precedes acceptance

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Sitting around with a group of friends and you’re the only one that’s single, during the discussion one of girls says “hey…, I think I have a great guy for you. What do you look for in a guy? Your answer could be something like; tall, black hair, charming smiling and the list goes on. 

But does the expectations you have for the person you want to have a relationship with make your mind set difficult when it comes to accepting the person for who they are?

Well they say that first impressions last 3 seconds and in those 3 seconds you have thought and whether you like it or not but that same list of criteria that you mentioned to your friends pops up and you start saying no, no, yes, yes and maybe. In a previous blog piece, I spoke about first impressions but if we take that away and we are just left with our standards sometimes it would make it difficult for the person to be accepted.

Does this define you we are as being too weak, confident or even proud.  Sometimes I think because we have these expectations we won’t accept the person for who they are. Is that bad, we shouldn’t lower our standard, but instead of lowering one should be opened to compromise. So yes and no would be the answer, sometimes having high expectations tells you exactly what you want and you don’t have that option of toying with the other person’s emotions.

We might not admit it, and some may say that it is about the person’s personality which I agree but my conclusion here would be that it depends on the person and their feelings about whether expectations are more important than being able to accept the person.  Only you have the power to make choices and take responsibility for the consequences we are left with.  

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Goodbye winter blues... Hello Spring

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So I know I missed the 1^st of September as the official day to blog about spring day, but to be honest with the cloudy skies and the ice wind that we had it didn’t feel like the first of spring. So today is how I imagined spring to be sitting in my room typing away on my laptop with the clear blue skies and the birds chirping it feels like a new beginning.

That it will be, we read stories of how winter is time to be cosy with love ones, flings and guys we just don’t like to put a label on them but they are there but with spring here it gives girls the confidence to blossom like flowers. Being born in September I love it, it’s time to put away that sweat pants and over size jacket that keep us warm and say hello to dresses and shorts which give girls a side advantage when it comes to impressing the fella’s with our gorgeous legs or our curves. We are kissing winter blues away and saying hello to spring kisses.

Days like these are best when you can lounge around the pool with a group of friends and gossip about, who did what over the winter months. I love days where I have a couple of girlfriends over and we are sipping on a few cosmos (very sex in the city I know) not worrying about guys troubling our minds. Girls do want that someone special in their lives but sometimes the single lifestyle gives you a get out of jail card where you can escape with your girls and just relax. Having that person nagging you where you going what time you coming back, who are you with gives girls that sense of omw back off a little so if your single don’t worry more fun your just opened to a whole lot of fun things this time of season.   

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