Sink or Swim

Adapted from Google images

As females we are hooked on those romantic films and novels where by the heroin always ends up with the hero. Destiny??? Well when we watch and read these things and are introduced to the main characters, the plot, the complication of the story and finally the happily ever after. However we never get to see what happens after the happily ever after. I like to think of relationships as a sink or swim situation. By that I mean it has ups and downs and often we are clouded by everyone’s opinions about relationships. 

I came across a feature in the Woman’s Health magazine for the August 2013 edition on, “How do you see your Relationship”; within the article they approach 5 different angles. The first being what your friends think it should be, next what Hollywood thinks it should be, following what the marketers think it should be, of course it has to have what you think it should be and finally what it really is. The reason this article caught my attention, is that it is true. Often most girls like me do want that Mr BIG, or our Superman to fly us around and Hollywood does play a major role on what we portray a relationship to be. Then there is the matter of what my friends have. Being around people that are in relationships and you being the one that is single can make you want the relationship more but when in a relationship it either works or doesn’t.

The article goes on by saying that as an individual you have the power to determine your happiness and not anyone else. Regardless whether you are single or in a relationship you need to choose what you want your purpose of your relationship status to be. There shouldn't be a sink or swim situation, there should only a destination, and the best part of it, is you make that choice of your arrival...

L.O.V.E

S 

A little thing called FRIENDSHIP...

Every day we encounter people in our lives and we never know what might come out of that meeting. Sometimes true friendships are born out of random moments and we should often cherish it.  As weird as it may seem, but a smile or a simple hi does the trick. 

Often when we are single we rely on our friends to distract us from that horrible feeling of being alone with our thoughts that fill our head on why haven’t I met someone, but with the friendship you  share with someone have might be stronger than any relationship one might have. 

They say that friends enter and exit one’s life, which is true. We encounter different stages in our lives which allows us to meet loads of people from pre-school, primary school, high school, varsity and then work these are the common environments we are exposed to in our adolescences to our adulthood.

We form  the dislikes, and the likes with people we have a common ground with but the revelation is that believe it or not sometimes one can become friends with a person they disliked and might find that the person you did not like might just be the person who understands you the most. Shocking but amazing, we shouldn't be stubborn when meeting people sometimes it can be scary but hey it’s not a relationship, it’s a friendship they are the best people you can ever have. After all they always have your back…

PS. I dedicate this piece to my entire group of friend who have been there for me…

L.O.V.E

S

A Broken Heart...

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One is always prepared to fall for someone at any unexpected time, but we are never prepared for the outcome that we fear the most, disappointment.

It is in that moment when you realise the guy that is in your class catches your attention and you realise that there might just be more than friendship in your eyes. He is the guy that girls drool over and yet he is the one that chooses to talk to you out of everyone else. However these are the type of guys that sometimes give disappointment a new meaning. You find moments where all you want to do is talk to him and gaze in those eyes that make you weak in the knees and there comes that moment when your eyes meet and all your body and mind is saying is kiss me already but it doesn’t happen leaving your mind confused.

So you guys flirt and test the water abit but then the worst thing you fear the most hits you, he tells you in some sort of way that he is just not that into you. A sudden pain dwells up inside and when you walk away you could only hope he walks to you but he doesn't, you want him to relies when you say "it’s cool" he found someone he likes but it isn't and most of all you want him to relies that when you say you like him, you mean it but that's not the case.

Sometimes we are blinded by others to see a good guy standing in front of you and when you relies you like him it could be too late...here is where reality clashes with fantasy. So after all this we find ourselves curling up with a blanket and that chick flick with a bowl of ice-cream to try and make us feel abit better but the part that is the worst would have to be you walking past him and knowing that he was a jerk for just being a guy.

So guys when a girl gives you the cold shoulder or just is acting insane as you might think, it's not because she is mad but for the first time she might relies, she might have just broken her heart by allowing herself to be vulnerable...

L.O.V.E

S

Eat, Hike...Breath

Photograph take by Shernell Pather

Once in a while everyone need to getaway, whether it is a resort with a bunch of friends or a cosy cabin on the top of a mountain at a lodge with the family it something we keep with us. We use this precious time to reflect on the thoughts that are roaming around is our mind and find a way to clear our mind.

Having gone away to the Fernwood Lodge in Drakensburg, it was amazing to have time not only with myself and but also spend quality time with the family. It was also a chance to go on a journey up the mountain and on the hike trails which provided a feeling of serenity with.

This retreat allowed me to breath and take in the fresh air and go on a journey that was not only physically, but spiritual. It provided the stepping stone that was needed in order for one to find  themselves and what they want in life as well as how to let life run its course. I find that forcing things will just end up in one big puddle. Sometimes one needs to get out of the fast lane and take a break every once in a while...Eat, walk...BREATH! 

L.O.V.E

S